WOMAN: I don’t like it when you hang with your friends all the time.
MAN: Don’t tell me what to do.
WOMAN: You never hear me or see my point.
MAN: I can never please you.
WOMAN: If you loved me you wouldn’t treat me that way.
WOMAN: I feel left out when you spend so much time with your friends.
MAN: Why would you feel left out?..I love you.
WOMAN: I know you love me. I just want to spend more time with you? Would that be possible to work out?.
MAN: Ok, I will come home earlier. Would that be better for you?
WOMAN: Yes, I appreciate you for understanding me right now and that would help alot. I know you will keep your promise to me as you understand how important this is to me.
MAN: OK, I am going to see my friends Sat to just hang out and watch basketball..I will be home at 6 PM. Is that workable?
WOMAN: Yes….have fun….I probably will go shopping with my friends while you’re doing that. Is that good with you?
YES: Have fun.
Some idea on how to handle this situation and one’s that are like this. Better understanding, no accusations, no blaming, no quilt, no anger, no control, no manipulation….a blended of freedom within a relationship.
Let “me” be of “guidance” in your life situation’s.