PONDERING SUGGESTION TO CONVERSATIONS
Complaint: You’re never there for me!
Responder: Yes, I am.
Complaint: No you’re not. your friends are more important.
Responder: You never appreciate me when I try.
Complaint: Forget it..(.walk away).
RESPONDING SUGGESTION TO CONVERSATIONS
Complaint: I am feeling I am alone when I feel you’re not there for me many times. I know you try and there are many times you are. However, I need you with me more right now as I am going through some personal issues with myself. Is that possible?
Responder: I am glad you notice I try and I will do this for you. What do you want me to do?
Complaint: I need to have more down time with you.
Responder: When would you need more time with me?.
Responder: I play sports with my friends on Saturdays, you remember, right?
Complaint: Yes, could you be back home sooner or leave later?
Responder: I could be home 2 hours earlier. Would that work?
Complaint: Yes, thanks for understanding my needs right now. Can we do it this Saturday?
Responder: Next Saturday we need to be there the full time. What about starting the following Saturday?
Complaint: Thats fine..again thanks.
REMEMBER: When you make a commitment…keep it! Never use the word “never” because it discredits another’s efforts they do put into any situation.
Let “me” be of “guidance” in your personal situations.